Fearful-Avoidant Attachment

You have a fearful-avoidant (disorganized) attachment style - you deeply want closeness but simultaneously fear it, leaving you caught in painful internal conflict. You may pull people close and then push them away, or feel at the mercy of relationship anxiety without a clear strategy for relief. This style is often connected to early experiences of unpredictability or hurt. It's the most complex pattern, but it's also very responsive to trauma-informed therapy and self-compassion work.